Ok I think this one is going to be a bit deep, so be pre-warned. When I write about this kind of stuff I tend to ramble on a bit, thus the section is denoted as Rambling Thoughts…perhaps plain old Bullshit would be more apt.
These thoughts are things I’ve dissected many times and I quite familiar with, they just happened to emerge today due to an MSN conversation I was having with a dear friend.
We were talking about choices, ‘having‘ to do things and destiny/fate.
Destiny or fate in this context being defined as your life having a pre-determined path, which if you think about the deeper meaning is rather scary…it means you have no choice, or even if you do, it doesn’t matter what you choose, things will end up the same.
I personally don’t see it this way, and that is what I explained to her and I wish to explain to you, if I can manage to articulate it correctly..twice in one day.
I see it this way, fate has a meaning on the macro scale, the larger scale, the bigger picture…as for each person, you are pretty much irrelevant in the great map. Some things are pre-destined or fated, but there are also different paths to take, you have choices on how to live your life, the end of course is destiny…we all end the same, in death.
A morbid but true thought, don’t fear death, it’s going to happen to you one day. A lot of people don’t dare to think about dying, but well it doesn’t bother me, I am not one to fear what I don’t understand, I embrace the ‘different‘, the unexpected and the abnormal. Death is inevitable..it’s going to happen, today tommorow or in 65 years…no-one knows when.
The crux of the discussion was that we all have choices, if we are in bad situations we can be proactive and CHOOSE to get out of them, most people don’t they accept their ‘fate’ as they call it, and live whinging about the misery that unluckily fell upon them. This pretty much as low as using Religion as a crutch as many do (This I will discuss another day), blaming your mistakes or weaknesses on a higher power, or something out of your control. Accept responsibility, accept the fact you can do something about it. Life is about choice, I choose not to live my life sacrificing for others uncessarily, no I am not heartless, yes I care for people, but I only have one life and I intend to make the most of it.
If you are unhappy with your life, do something about it..
To quote Robert Frost, there is always a Road Not Taken.
“TWO roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;
Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,
And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.
I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I–
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.”
We all have choices, there’s nothing we CAN’T do, only things we feel we can’t do, or things we feel obligated not to do.
This is the key, we put ourselves in this situations, thus the logical conclusion is we can get ourselves out.
Choose your paths wisely..make your own fate, we will all end in the same place but how you get there is your own choosing.
About Bullshit…I seem to have a gift for it, someone said not many people have a gift for writing as I have, sadly most the time I just abuse my talent but well with SFDC at least I’ve done a lot of positive things with my knowledge/talent/bullshit..I pretty much have a PhD in bullshitology, fortunately this allows me to articulate some of the complex things that occur inside the mystical power that is my brain.
The above is one of these things..
I hope it helps you, motivates you or stirs you to thought in some way.